With the world slowing down and giving us more time to ourselves, I’ve had the unique experience of self-discovery. We all have imperfections to our persona. Things we like to scrutinize and change. But I believe that it is the imperfections that define who we really are.
As Edgar Allan Poe said, “There is no exquisite beauty… without some strangeness in the proportion.”
However, it takes courage for us to be able to accept these “imperfections.” Today, I want to talk about one of many imperfections which is my ability to be a great communicator. Turns out it’s a trait that is at the forefront of our new reality. And the ability to communicate well is an important element in any relationship.
If you ask anyone “what is the most important factor in any relationship?” they would most likely say “communication.” Surprisingly most of us don’t know the art of communication, neither do I. :)
So here I am, writing about it at 1 am in the morning. The thoughts I’m sharing are all things I’ve learned throughout my life.
Here are the 5 ways I think we can all become better at communication:
1- Act like a pantomime:
Don’t worry, I’m not asking you to move around for entertainment. What I’m really referring to is your body language. You’ll be surprised as to how many people do not realize that their physical behaviour affects their relationships. You know, when the person you’re talking to keeps looking behind you instead of looking at you. Or moving their hands and making gestures that don’t really make sense. And then that person keeps turning his head and looking away from you as if he’s talking to someone beside him. Totally forgetting that his attention is supposed to be with the person in front. Body language goes beyond body posture. It involves eye contact, appropriate hand gestures, and touch (not the perverted way, just a pat or holding hands), and facial expressions showing your engaged.
2- “There is a voice that doesn’t use words” Rumi
Listening is key! It might sound easy to do. However, I recently came across an interesting article saying, “Listen to understand, not to respond.” Most of us listen to each other to respond but not understand, process, reflect on the other’s feelings and thoughts.
3- “Silence at the proper season is wisdom, and better than any speech.” – Plutarch
Silence isn’t always a killer, nor does it have to be awkward. Sometimes we need a moment of silence to clear our heads and connect to our surroundings. It gives us an opportunity to reflect and appreciate each others company.
4- Choose the right moment to argue
Some believe that arguments should be solved immediately, whether it’s in the car, in the middle of a break at work or when you’re at the party. Well, news flash! It’s these moments where silence becomes the most powerful tool to use. Having a healthy argument in order to communicate requires a healthy setting.
Recognizing your imperfections and accepting that they are part of who you are. At the same time being aware that you can always work on these characteristics. Constantly working on these seemingly minute actions is the key to be a great communicator.